A Lagos-based female banker, Bimbo Danju has told Punch why she cut her husband's penis...
“Please, kindly judge this by yourself. As a pregnant woman, will I
willingly attempt to cut off my husband’s penis? I ordinarily would not
have said anything. I did not realise this will escalate to this stage.
The case is being handled by my lawyer at the moment.
“My husband is not a hot-tempered man but he gets angry once in a while.
He lied that he washes my clothes. He only did that once or twice when I
was ill. We had a disagreement that day and he beat me up. My mother
came to the house and took away our son.
“Without telling anybody, I went to my hospital and was treated. I did
not tell him. But when I got home, he continued to harass me. He said I
must ensure his son was returned to the house.
“I was so tired and I went to sleep. But in the middle of the night, he
woke me up and asked me again to produce his son. We started fighting
and he was beating me. In order to escape his beating, I had to hold his
penis. I wanted him to leave me alone. I held on to it until I had a
chance to escape.
“Please ask him, which certificate is he even talking
about? When I married my husband, he told me he graduated from the Ogun
State University, Ago-Iwoye, but that he had an accident some time ago,
in which his certificates were burnt,” she said.
“When I married him, he did not have a job. He said he was working on a CD and all the money I made, I spent on him.”
But in a chat with PUNCH, her husband, Lekan, told a different story. He said:
“My pastor had advised me against marrying her because of an encounter
he had with her. Before we got married, in a meeting with Bimbo, my
pastor said he asked her about her past and my wife said, ‘How dare
you!’
“Of course, I did not believe my pastor at the time because I was in love. But now, I rue the day I met that woman.”
Lekan alleged that his wife had been behaving strangely since he lost
his job. He stated that he had done everything he could to ensure that
she remained happy.
“I wash her clothes including her underwear. Even without a job, I
ensure that the proceeds of my gospel music CD are used to take care of
her and our son,” he said.
The apartment Lekan shared with his wife is a mini-flat. Asked who paid
for the apartment, the man said the house belonged to his father.
According to him, he was living in a rented apartment in Ikorodu before
relocating to his father’s house in Surulere so that it would be easier
for his wife to get to work.
Lekan explained that Bimbo was a good woman at the time. He said, “I
married her legally. We did a church wedding, went to court and did the
traditional wedding. But when I lost my job, I realised that after a
little disagreement, she would rain abuses on me and my family.
“She would sometimes destroy things in the house. There was a time we
had a disagreement and she chased me down the street with a stick.
During another disagreement, she took my HND certificate to the end of
the street and dropped it beside a gate. Neighbours had to plead with
her to bring it back.”
On how is wife attacked him, Lekan said:
“That fateful day, I was washing my wife’s clothes. She reminded me that
she needed some money for foodstuffs and I told her that God would
provide for us. Later, she came out of the house and said she had eaten
noodles and had fed our son.
“When I finished with the clothes, I was so tired because the clothes
were many. I ate the leftover of her noodles. There were about
three-spoonfuls left.”
Lekan alleged that that did not go down well with his wife who said she still wanted to eat the leftover.
He said he had to go to the street to buy bread for her since she said
she was still hungry. He further explained that he had to go out shortly
after to get some money from a salesman who handles his CD sales.
“I came home and informed my wife that I got some money from my CD. She
told me that she would like to eat wheat and white soup which I usually
buy for her from a restaurant. I bought that for her,” he said.
By that time, Lekan said the only thing he had eaten that day was the
leftover noodles. He said the remaining money from the CD sales had been
used to buy things needed in the house.
But his elder sister who had a shop nearby was to later give him N500
when she noticed that he did not look like he was feeling well.
“I went out to buy rice and when I came in and she saw me eating that,
she flared up. She said I lied to her that I had no money. She was
shouting but I pleaded with her to calm down so that my people around
would not hear. She replied that it would not be well with the people.
She abused my relations and parents.
“The following day, a Sunday, I swallowed my pride. I woke up and asked
which clothes she would like to wear to church so that I could iron it
with mine. When she did not answer, I left for church but came back
after the workers’ meeting.
“I got home and saw her preparing jollof rice but I went out to buy N60
bread and N40 beans. Trouble started again when she saw me eating that.
She said I refused to give her money but I was buying food to eat. She
said, ‘Before I say anything now, you will go and complain to your
useless family.’ That was when I told her that it was her whole family
that was useless. Had I known, I would have kept quiet. She took the
plate of beans and poured it on my head.”
But Lekan said even though many men would have pummelled such a woman,
he feared he might kill her in anger. The matter died down, or so it
seemed.
Around 2am, Lekan said he received a sudden and painful knock that woke
him up from sleep and realised that it was from his wife.
“I knew she had decided to start her trouble again. But I did not in my
wildest imagination think that she could do what she did next. Before I
realised what she was doing, I felt a sharp pain in my manhood. I
touched it and blood was gushing out. I screamed and my immediate
thought was, Is this the way I would die?”
Lekan pointed to a kitchen knife in a corner of his room which he said she used to cut his penis. What a wife!
